How do you spend your attention?


How aware are you of how you spend your attention? For most of us, we are little aware of where our attention goes on a minute-by-minute basis, let alone hour-by hour. Shame, given that our attention is, in my opinion, our most precious resource.

Attention, and it’s more effective sibling, focus, are the currency of engagement (it is the X-factor of the influential and charismatic), change and growth. Consider the analogy:  if you pay little attention to how you spend your money you can have little chance of wealth or prosperity. Similarly, if you are not at least sometimes strategic with your attention and focus, you have little chance of creating anything better for yourself.

Today, I have been using a wonderful tool for exposing where my business attention should be going: the IMPACT-EASE tool. I am not a list person, nor am I good with detail. This tool is brilliant for providing clarity on what it is that should be done. Little surprise, then, that getting back to my blog and writing a post was high on my impact-ease analysis today!

Download the impact-ease-worksheet (with instructions) to do your own anaysis.

I am yet to find who to attribute this file to – please let me know if you know who the author is.

The Ten Best Questions for Growth or Change

10 Best Questions for Reflection, Clarity, Insight and Growth

The list of questions below are proven questions to help another person, or yourself, find reflection, clarity and insight around an issue. The intention is to show the general structure of these questions as examples, rather than ‘exact’ questions that you would quote verbatim. Shape them to your needs as required, considering the content and context.

You can use these questions as individual points of reflection, or as a sequence.

  1. If things were perfect tomorrow (with regard to the issue), what would be different (in what you see and how you feel)?
  2. What aspects of this situation are you happy with?
  3. How would you rate your effectiveness/satisfaction here, say out of 10?
  4. What rating would be pleased with, or would help you meet the current challenge?
  5. What do you need to do to move towards your preferred/needed rating?
  6. How is your current thinking or feeling impacting on the outcomes, results or goal?
  7. What thinking or feeling do you need to have to meet your goal(s) or challenge?
  8. What learning emerges for you (either from your experience, the situation or these questions)?
  9. What are the implications for your next steps?
  10. What are your next steps or actions?

Bonus Question Group: Johari Question Set

Based on the Johari Window concept, the following four questions are powerful and can be asked in many contexts (reflection, conflict management:

  1. How do I see myself? (skills, behaviour, attitudes, thinking)
  2. How do others see me?
  3. How would I like to be seen?
  4. How do I need to be to be effective? (or to find resolution, or to meet the challenge)

Love is blind, they say, but what about anger?

3407364408_4e5111a739When were you last in your own “heat of the moment”? Take a minute to remember this state. Was your attention tightly focused on the object of your ‘heat’, or did you have wide peripheral vision? Was you thinking, similarly, broad or narrow?

For most people, their Red Zone causes a narrowing of awareness in more than one dimension. Think of being in your Red Zone as being in a small room. In a strong Red Zone state, you only experience the room, not you being in the room. Ironically, in this state, your awareness focuses increasingly on the ‘objects’ that keep you in the room, not those that can help you out of it.

Imagine, then, that while in this state you began ’scoping’ the room. Rotating slowly, seeing things you might have missed. This simple (but often not easy) shift in perspective allows you to both experience the room, and you in the room. Don’t be fooled – this is not a small shift, but a quantum change in perspective. It is the first and necessary step to creating an alternative outcome.

Amazingly, as you move more from being immersed in the Red Zone to observing yourself and your surrounds, your perception widens. The more you observe, the greater the distance you can observe from. To continue the metaphor, you now begin to see the room in house-plan view, along with other connecting rooms, even the whole building.

Observation is the key here: observation of yourself and of the ‘object’ or your Red Zone. the more you observe, the more you disengage your hard-wired habits of judging and emotional responses. The more you observe, the more you actually see (not what you were assuming you were seeing).

Try this with someone at work that you normally don’t have time for. In your next interaction with them, watch for expressions, inflections and emphases. Look for things that, until now, you had not seen before. Your old habitual thoughts and judgements might still be there, but let them come and go without ‘jumping on board’ with any of them.

Don’t be blinded by your emotions and habits. Think of an flight attendant saying “the exits are here, here and here”. Observation will illuminate your exits.

Further reading:http://healthmad.com/mental-health/physiology-of-anger/

The Success Zone publishing updates

The Success Zone

The Success Zone

Our new book, “The Success Zone” is in its final processes of publishing and should be available for sale later this month (Oct 09).

Pre orders are available at http://www.gr8education.com/book/thesuccesszone.html

Decision-making and organisation

Jonah Lehrer’s book the Decisive Moment gives strong insight into how we make decisions. Insight that helps to explain why we are at a turning point in human and societal development.

The instinctive decisions related to survival come out of our reptilian brain and are reasonably obvious. If we are about to be hit by a bus the decision to move out of the way is taken rapidly and instinctively. This part of our brain has had hundreds of millions of years of evolution and is very, very fast and efficient. From a conscious perspective these decisions just happen.

Our mammalian brain has had 65 million years to evolve an effective means of learning from experience. Many of our decisions come from this part of our brain and appear as feelings – something feels like the right thing to do (we also call this intuition). This covers a surprisingly large range of decisions. In effect, this part of our brain has a feel for anything we have experienced before and can synthesise a wide range of inputs into a single decision. It takes about 10,000 hours to become expert at something – typically taking ten years to accumulate so many hours – and once expert we “know” what the best course of action is. In a stable environment experts will provide the best decisions and we have relied heavily on experts in the past (and even now in many areas of life). A reliance on experts will show itself in a hierarchical model of organisation, the person higher up makes better decisions and thus should be deferred to, all the way up to the most powerful person at the pinnacle of the organisation or political system.

The neocortex is the third part of our decision-making apparatus that brings some very powerful tools including logic, calculation, extrapolation, modelling and metaphor. These are ideal for solving problems that we have not come across before. In effect, this allows us to create something, a solution, an idea, a process, a product that did not exist before. However, the neocortex is only about 100,000 years old – young in evolutionary terms – and remains energy intensive and not very efficient, for example we can only hold about four variables in memory at one time. Thus if we have a new, complex problem (i.e. with many more than four variables) the only way we can solve it is through a collaborative process involving diverse views – sufficiently diverse that all variables are held by someone – and an environment in which all views are properly aired and then synthesised into a solution that no individual would be likely to come to by themselves but is accepted by all participants as the best solution. This is a distinct departure from relying on experts and leads to organisational forms that are much more inclusive, collaborative and flatter – or networked – in structure.

One of the difficulties for the individual is to know when to use which decision-making process. Buying a house we should rely on feel (too many variables but a well known problem). Buying a corkscrew we should rely on logic (ease of use, look, price, perhaps being the variables you might use). From a societal point of view, when we move from a stable environment to one in which the problems we face are predominantly new, how do we change our organisational forms in a timely way?

As a world we now face issues and problems that we have not faced before: peak oil, aging populations, limits to growth, climate change and rapid technological change. To solve the problems that these issues create we need new organisational forms. These forms ARE struggling to emerge but are being limited by old organisational forms and their embodied decision-making processes trying to maintain the status quo, sometimes harshly. The best decision? Keep on plugging away building the new!

So how are your Red Zones…?

Using our concept of Blue and Red Zones, take a moment to consider your default state. If the Red Zone is based on the limbic/reptilian part of your brain (reactive, threat aware, rapid, self-aligned) and the Blue Zone ‘points’ to your prefrontal cortex (compassionate, creative, collaborative, reflective, goal oriented, slow, socially-aligned), which of the two do you lean towards habitually?


If you are biased in the Red Zone, then you:
  • react before you think
  • think or say things like “I was here first”
  • engage with impulses
  • move from neutral to an energetic negative state (anger, disgust for instance) quickly
  • easily adopt Red Zones belonging to others
  • infect others with your own Red Zone
  • feel anxious easily, particularly where you are lacking control or where there is some uncertainty
A metaphor here could be seeing a train on a platform about to depart and jumping on it before you see where it is going. In other words, people often engage with your Red Zone without cognitive choice.

Think of a person that you know that you would say is the most calm under high pressure. This person is very likely to be very heavily biased in the Blue Zone. In this state, they would
  • be aware of their internal state and could label whether they are in the Blue or Red Zones
  • seem to be always considering situations from a socially-oriented perspective (ie the needs of others)
  • use a variety of strategies to manage down the impact of their Red Zone triggers
  • be able to make clear thinking decisions in the face of pressure and stress
  • are not overly impacted by a perceived lack of control or of uncertainty
  • are not impacted by the Red Zone states of others
  • do not act as a Red Zone contagion
In terms of a key measurement of EQ, the two dimensions of self awareness and self management are highly expressed by those biased toward the Blue Zone.

To compare these two zones to transactional analysis (TA), it would be easy to see that in their negative ego states Child and Parent are both Red Zone states, while the Adult is very in the Blue. Interestingly both Child and Parent have Blue Zone states too, and in these states they are growing (Child) or helping another grow (Parent).

One of the outcomes of TA is the concept of win-win through “I’m OK, you’re OK”. A closer look at this dynamic shows the four states possible:



Clearly, three of the four have the strong potential to create a Red Zone response in either ‘You’ or ‘I’. In our research, where we have looked at the dilemma of respect in organisations, we often find different internal maps of respect. For instance, teachers often express conditional respect (if you do what I ask then you will get what you need). Students, however, need unconditional respect to thrive. For them, this looks like “in spite of perhaps not knowing how to behave or how to do the work, I need you to listen to me, believe in me and to take me seriously. Indeed, only unconditional respect (or love) can trigger deep, higher-order change and growth. The only quadrant in the table above that describes unconditional respect is I’m OK, you’re OK. The only unquestionably blue quadrant.
Research has shown the contagious nature of emotions, with Red Zone emotions being more easily ‘caught’ than Blue. Given that emotions ‘leak’ (in other words, they are evident to others in spite of all of our efforts to contain them), any significant Red Zone emotions that you engage with will push an interaction with another into any of the quadrants above apart from the blue.
Part of the answer is to know which zone you are in. The rest of the solution lies with how you manage down your Red Zone, and how you can ramp up your Blue. Watch this space…